Low self esteem is not inherited. There are always external causes of low self esteem, which, if detected, can be rectified. This can lead to improved self esteem.
After a child is born, it starts receiving external stimuli of various type. Some of these are loving, caring, supporting, encouraging, etc. But some other stimuli are put-downers, outright insults, doubts, suspicions, discouragement, etc.
It all depends on what a child receives more, and how he/she takes it. If there is an overload of negative stimuli then the child is sure to have a negative attitude and low self esteem later in life.
The following list details a few possible cause of low self esteem.
Negative Self Talk
It is therefore necessary for parents to shower their child with positivisms, encouragement, love and support. Avoid criticisms, put-downs, harsh words, unfair comparisons and unrealistic expectations.
If the seeds of high self esteem are planted and nurtured in the child at an early age, then the weeds of low self esteem will have no chance to grow.
When one interacts with people, including strangers, one realises within a few moments whether the other person is more knowledgeable or less. If all the people that one encounters are superior in knowledge, then naturally a sense of low self worth will develop.
There are many people who have not completed even school education, but have built huge businesses or have been successful in politics and other fields. This was possible because they educated themselves through books and other means. Thus, they raised their self esteem even without a university degree.
A child who has scored poorly in an exam is compared with another child who has scored high marks and is scolded in the process. But it may be a fact that the low scoring child may have aptitude in some other field. He may be a champion athlete or a good actor.
If, instead of being encouraged for his qualities, he is criticized for his weaknesses, he will develop a low self worth vis-à-vis other children and suffer for the rest of his life.
Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.~ Albert Einstein
A not-so-good looking girl may think that other girls are superior to her only because they are better looking. Thus, wrong attitude (not bad attitude) can be one of the causes of low self esteem.
We can thus see that low self esteem is an acquired trait. It is not an inherited quality like the color of the skin or the voice of a person. Like all acquired traits, this can also be treated and cured. Just remember that whatever be the causes of low self esteem, it can always be improved.
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