Building self esteem is a conscious activity. One cannot overcome low self esteem by just wishing it away. Here you will find some concrete steps to improve self esteem.
Positive self esteem is of paramount importance because it is at the root of every success in life. People with low self esteem think that they don’t deserve success. Hence they don’t try for it and hence they don’t achieve it. Even if they achieve success in any field by accident, they will themselves sabotage it and go back to square one and wallow in self pity.
Once we know the causes of low self esteem, steps can be taken to rectify them. Below are given some suggestions for raising self esteem.
Do Random Acts of Kindness
When you help a person in need, your stock in your own eyes increases tremendously. You now become a giver and a doer instead of being a taker and no gooder.
One reason for the feeling of unworthiness is the inability or unreadiness to give. A random act of kindness wipes away that feeling and helps in building self esteem.
In addition, if these acts are performed anonymously, their effect on our internal well being is ten fold. Now, only we know what good we have done and that feeling is very very exhilarating. Builing self esteem goes hand in hand with acts of kindness.
What is a random act of kindness: Anything that helps somebody, done without planning, sometimes spontaneously, qualifies as a random act of kindness.
There is every chance that it is picked up by a needy person because generally only such a person walks with his eyes to the ground. Have you noticed that when you are happy and without any financial worries, you tend to walk with a straight body and eyes looking ahead instead of drooping to the ground?
Of course the five or ten dollars will not solve the person’s financial problems, but it will surely give him/her a small reason to smile.
Begin to Accept Responsibility
How does accepting responsibility help in building self esteem? Firstly, accepting responsibility means accepting the fact that you have done the job. And who does the job? Only a person with value. A no good person will avoid both work and responsibility.
So, stop playing the blame game, start taking action and accepting responsibility. It will work wonders for your self esteem.
Give and Receive Compliments
At the same time, it is necessary to accept compliments with grace. Only a person who does not think himself worthy enough will shy away from accepting compliments. So whenever somebody says something nice, understand that’s/he has accepted you at his level and feel good about it.
Set and Achieve Goals
When you set a goal and work to achieve it, your life gets a sense of direction. Achieving a goal gives a feeling of satisfaction and fulfillment. It is this feeling that raises the self esteem of a person.
Also, what we become in the process of achieving the goal is more important than the achievement of the goal itself. The positive changes that we undergo increase our self worth. We become action oriented and not just an arm chair critic. A person of action always has high self esteem.
Use Self Esteem Affirmations
You will discover that increase in knowledge is accompanied by increase in self esteem. Knowledge is one of the self esteem boosters. Building self esteem has never been difficult.
Try to analyze yourself. See if you can find the reason for your low
self esteem and then take steps to neutralize that reason. If that is
difficult, consult a good counselor. Make building self esteem your
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